Thoughts About Marriage
by Gloria Bedingfield
Hope you don't mind if I share some things I have noticed. Most of the scriptures used in discussing men and women's roles in a marriage are found in Ephesians 5 & 6. However there are a lot of verses which we could make a spiritual application to in reference to our marriages.
One of these verses is Ephesians 4: 23 - 27; in these verses we find that we are to renew our minds in the spirit which is done through the scriptures. There is no greater way to keep a marriage together than for both of you to stay in the scriptures. Maybe you are unable to get your husbands to do this, then, you stay in the scriptures and this will bring peace to your marriage that would not otherwise be there.
Verse 24 tells us that we are to put on the new man (we know that this is the new creature which we become when we trust and believe in what Christ did for us on our behalf on the cross) but we can make another spiritual application to this verse by changing what we were as a single person: that of making singular decisions, thinking only for ourselves, and keeping things to ourselves. God tells us that we are to become one which would mean that we no longer think only of ourselves; instead we are to think of the other first, make decisions together, share everything. Can you imagine what your husband would think if you tried this!
Verse 26 tells us that we should be angry and sin not: let not the sun go down upon our wrath. NEVER go to bed angry, you never know what a night can bring and maybe it will be the last time you can tell your husband how much you love him and what he means to you. Forget the petty things and set your mind on the things, which made you fall in love with him at the first.
Verse 27 states that we should not give place to the devil - we do this when we think only of ourselves, what we want, and the things that make us upset with our husbands. Think of the things that you love about him instead when you feel yourself becoming angry. A wise woman once told me that you should do this when you look around and see the things that he does to upset you - just pick them up, correct the situation or whatever - it will take less time and energy than starting an argument over them. It works try it sometime and bring some peace of mind to yourself and well as your whole household.
I don't want you to think that these things are easy for they are not. I know myself, I have to read the Bible daily and keep my mind on the things of God instead of things I want in order to accomplish all of the above. And, yes, a lot of times I fail, but God knows us and that we do fail but we must just keep trying to do what God tells us for in the end it will benefit our marriages and make all involved happier.
Thank you for letting me share some of my thoughts with you!
Your sister in Christ